This is about me going against the tide of popular choice and living as a 40-something, never-married, single woman with no kids. I guess technically that makes me a FSNMSWWNK, but we'll stick with SINK for now.
I never expected to be in the place I am now. When I was younger, I just assumed that I would one day get married and have children, but for various reasons, it just hasn't happened. For the most part, I am okay with my circumstances, but occasionally my resolve cracks and I bemoan the fact that I will never be a mom.
Just recently, for instance, I decided to get rid of some toys that were mine as a kid and that I had been keeping in the hopes of passing on to my own children. And I wept as I did it. They are inanimate objects, but they symbolize my unfulfilled dreams of being a mom.
That is some seriously crazy shit, people. There are already too many people on earth, and when you think that there are four births per second (!!!) and only two deaths, the numbers become too hard to comprehend. Each one of those little blips on the map is a living, breathing human being.
And suddenly, it all became clear. I don't need to have my own kids in order to behave like a mom. I can be a mother figure to some of the seven billion people who are already living on this planet.
Everyone, children and adults alike, deserves kindness and compassion and love in their life, and I can be someone who provides those things for people. My mothering tendencies need not stay hidden simply because I don't have children.
We can all use a little mothering once in awhile, and I'm going to make it my new mission to provide it to as many people as I can. While the mothers of the world are tending to their offspring, I can be tending to the rest of us.
"Hi, my name is Sarah, and I'm a SINK. Do you need some mothering?"